tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post6242938409631944851..comments2023-06-01T03:44:39.299-07:00Comments on The Jaded Hippy: Rape in its' Myriad Formswhatsernamehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15731411057968563416noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-85768738301498599752007-10-21T17:13:00.000-07:002007-10-21T17:13:00.000-07:00I am very glad that you posted this. Very often I...I am very glad that you posted this. Very often I feel that rape is rape, there is no grey area and suggesting that there is will create legal leeway for rapists.<BR/><BR/>However, I also understand that the language we have is very limiting. No one wants to be a 'victim' and yet that is how we describe women who have been assaulted. I sympathize with their desire not to be seen as victims by denying that they were violated, but it is just so problematic. Perhaps the change we need is more language but 'grey rape'E is just not good enough.Cortneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14872805766270158996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-67486960373266364682007-10-17T13:28:00.000-07:002007-10-17T13:28:00.000-07:00I don't think that's wishy washy. I think it's es...I don't think that's wishy washy. I think it's essentially the same conclusion I came to.<BR/><BR/>Within these supportive communities I think this is a valid concept. And obviously something about the black and white way that rape is portrayed is not getting the message across. The amount of women who don't consider their rapes to in fact be rapes attest to that.<BR/><BR/>But legally? Legally fact is that sex you don't consent to is rape, and the legal system needs to take that more seriously. Because honestly? They're failing us. They're failing the victims on both sides, rapes and false allegations. It seems like every time I turn around the right person isn't getting the consequences, and they've made up some new bullshit law that will have all sorts of consequences that does nothing to get men like that fucking Marsalis behind bars.whatsernamehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15731411057968563416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-41721305680546021942007-10-17T13:05:00.000-07:002007-10-17T13:05:00.000-07:00Thanks for highlighting these various posts. I ha...Thanks for highlighting these various posts. I haven't got round to responding to the comments on my blog yet, but did want to reply to this: I think there are inherent dangers to giving too much importance to the gray areas, and I say that as one who has been profoundly affected by the gray. my fear is that by giving too much legal importance to the gray, we diminish the violence of uncontested rape.<BR/><BR/>That probably sounds pathetically wishy-washy, but I think we do a disservice by giving equal weight to all degrees of rape and assault. Which is not to say that the harm done by the lighter shades of gray should be unacknowledged: we need far more support for women in this situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com