tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post6377536715742667573..comments2023-06-01T03:44:39.299-07:00Comments on The Jaded Hippy: Trans Murder Apologywhatsernamehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15731411057968563416noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-71610688653406613062008-11-27T21:28:00.000-08:002008-11-27T21:28:00.000-08:00On that I think it is that there is a common root ...On that I think it is that there is a common root of both homophobia and misogyny. One I haven't entirely rooted out and named yet.whatsernamehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15731411057968563416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-90071706444550156252008-11-27T15:12:00.000-08:002008-11-27T15:12:00.000-08:00I think Radha [yes she was there too] hit the nail...<I>I think Radha [yes she was there too] hit the nail on the head, that unique element is homophobia.</I><BR/><BR/>As a cishetmale dude, I am 100% convinced that this is correct. And I am also 100% convinced that homophobia is all about misogyny.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-8382263155240315732008-11-23T13:10:00.000-08:002008-11-23T13:10:00.000-08:00@Watsername,I think you're spot on there. First of...@Watsername,<BR/><BR/>I think you're spot on there. First of all, it is more acceptable for a woman to play with a wider range of gender roles, which is something I can even now enjoy post-transition!<BR/><BR/>For men or transsexual women, the discovery of 'gender treason', giving up the masculinity for the 'inferior' femininity is almost the worst one can do.<BR/><BR/>Men looking for a woman are suddenly faced with someone 'on their level' who they are still attracted to. Lesbian women find themselves with 'an evil, horrible, attacker' who they found themselves attracted to.<BR/><BR/>It's funny how there are a great deal of people who focus on transsexual women having male advantage when we end up having neither. We lose before transition because we're so uncomfortable acting male and we lose post-transition because we're supposed to have enjoyed the advantages of male socialisation.<BR/><BR/>My only memories of male socialisation is being beaten up at school and being sidelined in later life because I wasn't 'forceful enough'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-20466290707641601452008-11-22T12:05:00.000-08:002008-11-22T12:05:00.000-08:00Hey Julie, I don't know why you deleted your comme...Hey Julie, I don't know why you deleted your comment, I thought you asked a compelling question. I'd be happy to answer it if you come back. :)<BR/><BR/>Emily,<BR/><BR/><I>Why is her femininity being revealed so less worrying than my masculinity?</I><BR/><BR/>Honestly I think it has to do with a lot of things. But one of them is that quite simply, women aren't taken as seriously, and femininity is viewed as a disempowered position, AND as essentially tied up in a female body. So, realized femininity is not threatening.<BR/><BR/>Whereas I think male bodied femininity is seen as threatening as well as more of a source of ridicule because you are choosing the dis-empowered position (to their eyes). They think you're just a non-threatening woman, but, oh, "actually" a man! Suddenly the power positions in people's head switch around, I think.<BR/><BR/>There is also the added element of the relative flexibility of the female role versus the male one. To be a "real man" there is a very narrow role one must conform to. Whereas women have forced people to recognize that there is a range of gender expression we can perform. For a transsexual man that's not necessarily better though, because it just means people will generally see you in their head as still a woman performing masculinity.<BR/><BR/>Those are my initial thoughts anyway.whatsernamehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15731411057968563416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-70320561693647132022008-11-22T04:10:00.000-08:002008-11-22T04:10:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7881681150508924494.post-73353241519264434222008-11-20T04:00:00.000-08:002008-11-20T04:00:00.000-08:00Thank you so much for this reasoned, deep post. Be...Thank you so much for this reasoned, deep post. Being transsexual puts one in a dangerous situation automatically just for the reason you mention: People can be very shocked to have their preconceptions proven wrong.<BR/><BR/>Whilst I live my life as much as possible as a normal woman, not telling people I meet on the street or work with, I do try to make sure that anyone who comes close to being a romantic interest is aware of my history. I've had both men and women react with pure disgust and I think that had I not shared this earlier, it could have ended in a violent reaction (more so from the men than the women).<BR/><BR/>I've challenged the heterosexuality of straight men and the homosexuality of lesbian (cis)women and seen the same reactions. I think there is something deep in the psyche of how society reacts to a woman that makes masculinity a horror.<BR/><BR/>I've discussed this with friend of mine who is a terribly butch lesbian (and she looks just amazing in her tailored men's suits) and whilst an amazing amount of people assume she's male, she doesn't get the same reaction as I do when she tells them that she's not (she's not trans, so she doesn't identify as male). Why is her femininity being revealed so less worrying than my masculinity?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com